Stories
(Non-BPD Experiences)
Dr.
Jekyll and Mr. Hyde.
The hardest part about acceptance
of the person suffering BPD for me was the "Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde" quality
of the disorder and their behavior. One moment I was curled up in the arms
of the sweetest, nicest man I'd ever met. The next minute I was fending
off an angry tiger that was trying to claw me to death verbally.
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Don't
Blame The BP for Who They Are.
The main advice I give to
people involved with a borderline is to tell them to realize that the BP
has not singled you out to inflict upon you the pain and hurt of their
problem. It took me sometime to realize that my ex husband had not deliberately
set out to make my life a misery. It would have happened, to one degree
or another, no matter who he had married. Blaming the BP partner for who
they are is futile in the extreme and does not help the situation in any
way. This does not mean that you must accept the situation but rather you
acknowledge the situation for what it is and work from that point.
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What I Gained from Loving
Someone with BPD.
I learned a lot about myself
and my capacities for living life to the fullest, regardless of what is
happening around me or what other people might think. I also learned a
lot about the kinds of choices I make in relationships and gained an extraordinary
amount of insights about my past, my patterns, and my attractions. I wouldn't
have had the opportunity to examine and question myself so thoroughly had
it not been for the BP.
I learned to explore the
world that I live in, especially in terms of trying new things. And in
many ways the adversity of dealing with the BP cemented some of my sense
of spirituality. I also learned a lot about my self worth and self esteem,
about what is acceptable behavior and what isn't. Also, about my own limits
as a person. And, most importantly, about what a great sense of humor I
have!
And that, as Eleanor Roosevelt
said so beautifully "No one can make you feel inferior without your consent." |
